I am having some difficulty navigating some First Grade Social Situations.
The first one... well, I'm not sure what I can do about this. I think I mostly just want to whine about it. SO. There are these 2 and sometimes 3 moms (but usually just the 2) who I feel should be friends with me. BE FRIENDS WITH ME, DARNIT! Not BEST friends or anything, but our kids are in the same class, we are the Moms Who Are Always At Pick Up, we are the moms who hang out at the playground with our kids after school on sunny days, AND OUR KIDS ARE FRIENDS. I feel like I should be standing off to the side with them chit chatting while we wait for the bell to ring, right? They seem cool!
But I don't hang out with them. Wah. The story is: the two moms were parents of a girl and a boy in Molly's class. After the first month a bunch of those kindergartners were transferred to JACK'S class which became a K/1 split. I could have sent Molly along with those kindergartners and bumped Jack to the newly formed 1/2 split when this happened, but I was given a choice and I elected to have them stay with their teachers. I sometimes wonder if this was best, but WHATEVER, it's been FINE. Anyway, that girl and boy who were originally kindergartners in Molly's class are now kindergartners in Jack's class. He plays basketball at recess with the boy and is reading partners with the girl. We've run into the girl's family out to dinner once and I've initiated small talk with both moms at various points in the year. But neither mom seemed all that interested in anything further and they've never once made eye contact with me when we are all just standing around watching our kids play together.
I think the reason probably is: they already know each other. And maybe I missed my chance for having someone to stand around with at the beginning of the year when everyone is forming their What Do I Do While I'm Waiting For My Kid situations. I'm also told that people in Seattle are often This Way. I don't think they're Not Nice, it's not a cultural/not fitting in sort of thing, I think... yeah, that things are just sort of Established. If I just waltzed over to their group after school on the playground one afternoon and invited myself into the conversation I don't THINK they'd shoot lasers with their eyes, but I'M STILL INTIMIDATED. I've kind of given up hoping they'll introduce themselves to me. GOD I AM SO PATHETIC RIGHT NOW.
The SECOND THING... I need advice for this one. While on the playground this afternoon a little girl walked by the kids my kids were playing with, on her way home I think, and Jack turned around and said, "Bye Sierra!" Very friendly like and all, and then turned back around to play. But then the Sassy Blond, his bff from kindergarten, said all matter-of-factly, "Sierra has a crush on you." And Jack kicked the ground and said, "I know, but I don't have a crush on HER" and I think there was more talking after this but I'm not sure because my brain exploded.
I had to restrain myself from shouting, "WE DO NOT HAVE CRUSHES IN FIRST GRADE" right that second and again on the way to the car and then again on the ride home and RIGHT NOW I AM TRYING NOT TO SAY IT RIGHT NOW.
But should I say SOMETHING? I don't want it to become a THING by acknowledging it, at the same time I want to give the Sassy Blond the what for and start making plans for military school.
Except. I still remember the name of the boy I had a crush on in kindergarten. Don't tell my mom. (He was the best colorer in our class. My teacher showed his paper to our whole class. I remember this. And I distinctly remember planning to color better than him next time and TAKE HIM DOWN. Maybe it wasn't a crush?)
BUT NOOOOOOO THIS IS NOT ALLOWED TO HAPPEN. ACK.
Then again, another thing I learned this afternoon is that both of my children have classmates who live in hotels. Because Jack said, "If you live in a hotel do you take the bus to school?" and I said "Huh?" and then I realized that my problems are very small indeed.