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    January 24, 2013

    I figure we're due for a little blog angst, yes?

    Okay guys, so here's the problem with the blog. Or, the many problems with the blog. (This one. In case you were wondering.)

    I don't know what it's about anymore. 

    Well. ME, obviously. MEEEEEEEEEEE. My favorite subject. 

    And not that I ever felt like it had to be ABOUT something before. Like Emily said her blog post a few weeks ago, which has obvs inspired this post, I started this thing because I was BORED. And back then I didn't have 9.5 years (OMG) of archives, so everything was fresh and silly and all of it was interesting (to me). 

    Now the blog is more a means of procrastination than time-filler. Now I do more "considering" before I write about my kids, especially Jack. And you know how smitten I am with Emma, but let's face it, babies have not slept and not walked before and I repeat myself - have you noticed? I stopped writing for Parenting.com (I quit and they said, "well, we were going to get rid of you anyway") because I didn't have anything new to say. That's sort of how I'm feeling here. 

    But this is not a post about Not Blogging Anymore. I'm not sure I could stop! I have always kept a journal and you know what? Journals are way more fun when people comment on them and then you get to meet those people in real life. SUPER COOL.

    In the last year or so, though, I've been starting to feel like: what is to keep people reading this? And not in the "I have to have lots of readers!" way, but in the "why would my FRIENDS want to read this?!" way. I have made some beloved internet friends and if this is the prime way I communicate with them and share my world, OH GOD. I AM SO SORRY FOR THEM. I can't STOP writing, because I love it and because I want to be part of the community, but WHAT IS THERE TO SAY? 

    Things I have considered: 

    • blogging less often, like once a week. So that it COUNTS and it's GOOD and it MATTERS. 
    • becoming a Churchy Blog
    • becoming a Blog That Documents The Creation Of Our Bakery/Playroom
    • become one of those people who only Twitters
    • magically getting funnier/wiser/more original

    Unfortunately I am a very average boring person who wants to write about ALL the average boring things whenever I feel like it. So. Those things are not going to work. 

    I guess this is more about my fear of maintaining my online friendships. Because guess what: I DON'T have as much time to dork around online as I used to and it appears I gave up reading blogs instead of writing one. Most people tend to do it the other way around, I suppose because they are much nicer than I am. But I can't tell you how many days I go between opening up Google reader, or how many times a friend (A GOOD INTERNET FRIEND!) has to inform me that she wrote something about that exact thing I'm talking about two weeks ago FOR SHAME. 

    Since the new year I've been trying harder. I weeded out my reader and at least once a week I make a concentrated effort to not only read my friends' blogs but COMMENT ON THEM. I've become lazy and dependent on Twitter and Instagram, even Facebook sometimes! I feel like I know what's going on with you! But then I open up your blog and oops. I don't. 

    I used to sit at the computer and type URLs into the address bar from memory and read your stories for hours. I can't do that anymore. But I want to do better than I'm doing now. I used to think blogging would be a phase or something, and then I'd find something better to do, but no. I don't think I'll do this FOREVER but to stop means... well, it'd be like moving away. I HATE MOVING AWAY. Would we stay in touch? WOULD WE REALLY?

    And THEN, Internet, I feel stupid for having BLOGGING ANGST. HOW RIDICULOUS. 

    Okay, so this is what is going on right now. Ready? Today I:

    • found out how to get Molly into kindergarten next year even though she was born (one day) past the cut off date (YES THIS IS HAPPENING)
    • ate snap peas and Ranch dip for a snack instead of chocolate chips
    • made plans with the FPC to leave our kids with our husbands Sunday afternoon and price out bakery ingredients and equipment at two different stores (THIS ALSO APPEARS TO BE HAPPENING)
    • could not figure out which part of Mexico is the best part of Mexico to go to if your husband reeeeeeeeeally wants to sit on a beach and do absolutely nothing to celebrate his 10th anniversary (I'm thinking Puerto Vallarta because the flights are cheaper?)
    • decided I could wait another week or two for a haircut

    HOW SPECTACULARLY FASCINATING! WHAT SCINTILLATING PROSE! 

    I love you. Have a good weekend.

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    I'm not sure why I'm commenting because I think I blog for other reasons than you do. I did, however, find that I was happy with some of the moments I captured for myself for posterity because I was blogging. Now, granted...on my blog, it is about 4 special moments over a year of daily blogging, but for now it's worth it for me.

    But then, that's me... and isn't "me" really what all of our blogs are about?

    I'm going to totally ignore the blogging portion of this post (simply because I stopped blogging a year ago and not only did no one notice but I can't get motivation to start again so I have nothing to add to the conversation) and focus on your vacation question.

    I just got back (last week!) from Punta Cana, Dominican Republic. I know you said Mexico, but in the event you're not totally stuck on Mexico, I HIGHLY recommend the Dominican. The Dominican people are the best I've ever met. And the beaches - OMG. For a girl who loves aqua, I have to tell you that the DR beaches are like NEON turquoise, if that is such a thing and the sand is like walking on powdered sugar. So breathtaking.

    But! I do have Mexico opinions! I've been to both Cancun and the Mayan Riviera. Cancun is a big fat no unless you want to go out and party like rockstars which I'm assuming you do NOT. So, no. But the Mayan Riviera. Oh, how I love it there. The resorts are far apart and set back from the road, the beaches are bright turquoise and gorgeous. Most of the resorts do not have beachfront rooms, as they are not built up (the plus side is that there aren't any tall buildings to interrupt the view and the resort feels very much like walking through the jungle) although I do know of one (the El Dorado Mayan Riviera) that has beach front rooms. I've had two family members stay there and gave glowing reviews. Personally, I've stayed at the Iberostar Paraiso Maya and the Grand Palladium Kantenah. Both were great, no complaints, but the Grand Palladium was a little more fancy. The MR offers excursions and stuff, but I can tell you I literally do not leave the resort, I like to just sit and do nothing, and the MR (and DR) is perfect for that.

    Ok, I'll shut up now, but clearly I love to talk Caribbean travel :)

    I don't care if you only blog about your pinky toenail, I'll keep reading (and rarely commenting....oops). I just really like reading your style of writing and even the angst that comes with it sometimes! It's a good read, even if it's about nothing. Don't tell the others, but sometimes I clear out my reader after I've read my favorites....and yours always gets read. Shhh. Our secret!

    I'm so glad you're not going to stop blogging, because yours is one of my favorite blogs to read ... whatever it's "about". I think it doesn't have to have a theme, unless you want it to: bloggers for free blogs!

    I sometimes think I should have named my own blog Thoughts As They Cross My Mind (though in a way I kind of did).

    I've been having a hard time blogging, too (man, it's hard to find time to write and read and comment when you work out of the home! so exhausting!), but really want to keep trying for the relationships - so I feel you there.

    For what it's worth, I like the "average boring" (your words - I disagree on both counts) stuff because it's so... relatable. I want to know that you painted a wall aqua and how you feel about it. I want to know about the back-and-forth decision making of whether to pursue this business idea. And I DEFINITELY want to know about the parenting ups and downs. (And also I love your reads and recommends. LOVE.)

    I don't know. You weren't asking for validation or suggestions or anything. I also like reading about blog angst and personal identity crises - small and large and blog related. I don't comment often enough anymore, but I read when I can. And I will always WANT to read what you write, whatever it is.

    So we were just talking about this at book club (did you just laugh out loud when I wrote I was in a book club), about how none of us journal about our kids and how aside from Facebook we have no written record of our children's development or funny things they said or did or anything at all for that matter! YOU have that, because your blog is your journal. And, even if no one else ever read it again, which is highly unlikely because I will read it as long as you write it, you will have something to show your kids someday besides a Facebook timeline. Also, I second going to the Dominican Republic or that side of Mexico if beaches are your goal. But, between Puerto Vallarta and Cabo San Lucas, I liked Cabo better. If relaxing is your goal, you should go on a cruise! Then you can check out a number of beaches!

    Go to Isla Mujeres off the Yucat√°n peninsula! It's also close to Rivieria Maya. And you should stay at Hotel Secreto! www.hotelsecreto.com

    Oh I'm so glad you aren't going to stop blogging ! I may find myself getting behind from time to time but I always catch up on your life. Also , I'm in a blogging slump myself but trying reallllly hard to get reinspired. So yeah. There's my two cents. I had more to say but these two tiny peuople living with me are being distracting amd I totally lost my train of thought. Sigh.

    I will second the suggestion for Isla de las Mujeres. Best place I've ever been when it comes to white sand, blue water and relaxing.

    As for the blog ... are you going to email everyone every week? Text them? Call? I think as an adult it's very easy to get so caught up in the NOW that you let relationships go. You don't have time to call/email/text, then, when you do, you don't want to bother THEM. Blogging is like a big newsletter to all your friends and, you know, everyone else.

    interesting article, i like that.

    i like it.

    Out of all the blogs I read, somehow yours ends up feeling like I just had a satisfying conversation. Even though I don't always comment, so it's one sided, it STILL feels like I had a delightful chat with a good friend, about things both important and trivial.

    So glad you are going to keep blogging as my son and daughter are a lot like Molly and Jack...Boy first, then girl 15 months apart and also some similar personality traits it seems lol :) AND I have another boy (9 months old.) So right now I am doing the whole 3 kids under age 4, preschool etc and I love reading about what is going on with Jack and Molly (and Emma!) because it seems I will be facing the same school stuff!

    (Also, I need your thoughts when you have time what made you decide to send Molly ahead and not hold her back. My daughter will be in 3 year old preschool in the fall and my son in 4 year old preschool and my daughter's bday is beginning of June. She is pretty mature for her age, but everyone seems to advocate holding " young 3's" back a year for kindergarten.)

    Anyway, I can't wait to read about whatever you are blogging about... painting, the bakery, whatever!

    Oh I forgot to add we went to Puerto Vallarta for our honeymoon 5 years ago and stayed on the adult only side of the resort....AMAZING!

    Can I just say ditto to what Susie said?

    No one reads my blog anymore (ever), so I am certain that I blog simply to keep track of stuff...thoughts, baby milestones, funny stories, etc. I'm not good at keeping a written journal, but the blog, I can do. Facebook and Twitter take up all my good daily stuff now (esp photos), but the blog still gets a few good photos of my rather photogenic cherubs. :)

    I would miss you if you disappeared!

    If you ever stop blogging, I am going to be very mad. Your blog is one of my favorites.

    I enjoy your blog because of some of the parallels (and divergent paths) of our lives. I am a SAHM to 3 as well, and feel cooped up..and wonder what will happen when they are all at school someday?? I like the random, parenting, this-is-my-life posts that you write! I hope you can continue to blog, I'd miss your blog badly if you stopped! I like to see how different Seattle is also-I live just over the border in a suburb of Vancouver, not so far away, really!

    Hey Maggie! I've been reading you off and on for a couple of years now. Sometimes I get behind and come back and read like, three months in a row, but the *reason* I keep reading is that you are funny, and also because you are so honest about all the things that stress you out in your life. I sometimes feel I can't be very honest in my blog because the majority of my readers are my real life family and friends. I envy anybody who can be real, and you are real.

    It's so hard having three kids, and it's especially hard when they're close in age, and you still have the energy to do things like paint walls! See, mine are getting to the age where I can kind of let them do their thing and start trying to envision what my life might be like when I am kid-free. My youngest is only 11, but at the rate we're going, he'll be in military school or something before too long. Either way, I am already looking for the light at the end of the tunnel. It probably sounds bad, but there it is. I hope it will encourage you to know that blogs like yours help me remember I should take time to enjoy the tunnel while I can. Stressful or not, our kids are only kids for a short time.

    About the writing itself, you can only keep writing as long as it is fulfilling *to You.* When it loses the quality of being something that fills your cup, it's time to make a change. Blogs can evolve, obviously. They have to, because as women and mothers and human beings, WE are always evolving and changing.

    On the vacation thing-- a previous commenter mentioned a cruise. I second that. I took my kids on a cruise last year (a single mom taking three kids out of the country by herself- you can't imagine the angst!) and it was wonderful. I'd go again in a heartbeat.

    Sorry this has been so long. Good luck and keep up the great work.

    I'm weird (apparently) in that I like blogs better if they don't have a Theme. I mean, people have got to write about what's on their mind, and sometimes that's the same sort of stuff repeatedly, but it always bums me out when a blog I enjoy gets a Brand going and suddenly that person feels like they can only write these deep and thoughtful articles about X topic.

    Also, Molly is going to KINDERGARTEN? Craziness.

    I like reading your blog because the experiences you write of your kids echoes true to me. You are very real in the way that you depict trying to lose the baby weight, whether to care, going to church, parenting solo, and all the other myriad things you do while also trying to parent three children. The more I read your blog the more I realize we are very different people, but it is amazing how similar our experiences with our children are. Its nice to know there is someone out there who "gets it," because sometimes I feel like the people I know in real life put on a fancy show that I just can't seem to replicate in my house! Please keep writing about your boring days, because they really are not boring at all!

    My husband and I loved Puerto Vallarta whenwe went. It was way easier and cheaper than other options too (no time change, direct flight, and did I mention cheaper?). We even stayed at an all-inclusive (maybe "Dreams"? it's been awhile), which was lovely. We went into town to eat a few times, as the Mexican restaurant on site was awful - but the other restaurants were impresive and eating in town was fantastic.

    Er....Ihave no counterfactual, so maybe you'd prefer somewhere else, but I do think a very nice lie-on-the-beach vacation can be had in PV.

    I think we do what we're passionate about. If you are not compelled to write, don't force yourself....let yourself drift off into the next thing, whether it's the bakery or the churchy blog or whaever. Mighty Maggie can hang out with less activity and be ready when you are.

    That said, I enjoy your blog and would be happy if you kept writing. I hope you find your blog purpose.

    I feel the desire to become a Twitter-only person very strongly. And I am barely on Twitter. Why am I trying to quit the Internet stop stirring up FEELINGS in me Maggie!

    I have been thinking about all these same things! (See also: commenting here 2 days late because I'm always behind on my blog reading these days.) However, I keep my blog mainly for me so although I LOVE my readers, it wouldn't matter if my sisters were the only ones reading, I'd still do it. (Some days my sisters ARE the only ones reading.)

    P.S. I totally agree with Susie.

    Never stop blogging. Please. I rather like reading whatever you blog; it's like a quick chat with a good friend. And since I now live in the same state with you, maybe someday we might even meet in person?!! But then I'd go all fan-girl on you and that would be so. embarrassing.

    Check out the Moon Palace in Cancun. We went there for our 10th anniversary and spent the majority of the time relaxing on the beach and by the pools, but still were able to opt in for a couple of excursions. The food wasn't spectacular (it's an all-inclusive) but the drinks were plentiful (since they were all included, we tried a bunch of things that were new to us). It was a great relaxing vacation!

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