More thoughts on school
A step in the Outside direction

Twelve years too late!

In keeping with our little school theme here, I got an email the other day from a girl I knew for all of one year of high school. Apparently she found my brother's MySpace page, got my email address from him and there she was, asking me what I'd been up to for the last, oh, twelve years.

(Note to my brother: People with MYSPACE PAGES have no business making fun of people who run highly entertaining professional-looking BLOGS. Mmkay?)

(Note to everyone who'd rather read about the baby: Please help me in my Continuing Adventures With Baby Food over at Parenting. Seriously. I NEED HELP.)

So anyway. It wouldn't be such a weird occurrence, getting an email from an Old School Chum, right? Except that this was a girl I knew during the worst year of high school on record, when I didn't have anyone to eat lunch with, let alone someone who would think to email me twelve years later. And we weren't even friends! I mean, of all the people I would have liked to have been friends with at that school, she was at the top of the list. She was probably the friendliest nicest person I knew that year- but being friendly and nice meant she was friends with everyone else and there obviously wasn't much time to become BFF with me. We were on the basketball team and in the same classes, but that'd be the extent of our friendship.

Which leads me to wonder: WHY EMAIL ME?

The obvious answer is: because lots of people in the world are much nicer and pleasanter and sunnier dispositioned than I am. SOME people just like to say hello and catch up. It's a NICE THING TO DO.

And it's not like I MINDED getting an email from her (and believe me, there are plenty of high school era people I'd rather not get emails from.) The handful of memories I have of her are all good ones. I was sort of surprised that I wasn't creeped out when I saw that email was from a High School Person. There are exactly three people I communicate with from high school and two of them I haven't talked to in years. Tracking those people down, finding out what they're up to, the thought of going to (oh dear God in heaven) a REUNION makes me queasy. So the fact that I thought it was nice that she thought of me is not un-meaningful.

BUT STILL. I guess I just don't see the point. It's not like we had some great friendship to reignite or anything. We didn't even graduate together. We were on the basketball team sophomore year and then she moved away. The End. So what is the point of emailing me?

(See, Phillip got really sick of me going on and on about this last night so I have to come do it here.)

I have to admit, there are two or three people I'm curious about. I'd like to know if they got married and what kind of jobs they have and where they live. Just so I can sort of finish them off in my brain. Closure! But NO WAY am I going to hunt down their MySpace pages and EMAIL THEM. (Okay, MAYBE I would hunt down their MySpace pages, but I would not email them. Although MySpace is scary. SCARY. Why can't everyone have nice little blog?)

I don't think this girl was looking for me. When I saw "your brother's MySpace page" of COURSE the first thing I did was go FIND my brother's MySpace page and INVESTIGATE. Turns out he is "friends" with a whole bunch of people from our high school (he graduated two years after me) and clicking through all those profiles seriously messed with my head. And then I discovered the high school reunion page two girls set up to connect everyone and MY BRAIN EXPLODED. Too much information! Too many old names and faces and updates! Gah! I'll bet anything this girl was clicking through just like I had done, found my brother's page, thought to herself, "Hey! He had a sister in my class! I should see what's up with her!" and then actually DID THAT VERY THING.

So who is the normal one? Her? Or me?

If anything, it made me want to email one of the friends I haven't emailed in years, just so I could say, "GUESS WHO EMAILED ME!" And then gossip about all the people I saw on the reunion page.

I often wonder what it would have been like to attend high school in the states. Phillip isn't exactly friends with people from high school, but he'd always run into them on campus or reconnect with them through job networking or friends of friends of friends. I have other friends who were super excited about their reunions (okay, not freakishly so, but they still wanted to go whereas I would not consider the thing in a million zillion years.) I wonder what it'd be like to go home to your parents' house and hear about all the other kids who've been in town lately. I don't know. But going to a school where NO one goes back home didn't make a difference to all the people friended on the reunion page. THEY were beside themselves with the getting reacquainted.

Maybe it is ME. And my surly snobby high-school-is-the-pit-of-all-evil* attitude. That must be it.

What did Christian say about prom on Project Runway? "I think prom is horrible and tacky and gross!" Yeah.

*Actually, I do not think this. Not entirely. It's just that the good parts of high school- my kick ass volleyball team, my English teachers, the drama stuff, the going out and dancing, the actual friends I eventually made- NOT AS INTERESTING. Who wants to read about that? GIVE ME THE ANGST!


blog nerd

I'm a definite like to find and reconnect kind of person. I have both a my space page and a facebook page and love finding old friends. If we went to high school together I'd probably be the one emailing you and stirring you up.

But of course I am called Blog NERD for a good reason.

But that's beside the point--I want to know when it started being called "Prom"--I always said, "THE Prom" "The Prom was tacky and horrible, etc."

Are you going to The Prom? Who did you take to The Prom?

Now everyone on tv, in movies, and actually in real life say Prom. When did that happen?


girl...I am heading over to your brother's page to find out more about you....I agree with you ~ weird!


Maggie! I tried to read your Parenting post, but I am DENIED ACCESS! What is up with that? Do I have to register or something? I am confused.

Blog nerd: Yeah, what's up with that? I think, though, the whole "prom/the prom" thing is regional. Are you from the Northeast? I say "The prom" also.


Delurking to say that it's not just you, There are plenty of people who are anti-reunion as well as plenty of people who would love to dive back in an see whateverone is up to. I came from a very small graduating class, so I would kind of love to see what those people are doing now, but my husband who graduated from the same high school could care less. And when we run into high school people in the mall? He would much rather avoid eye contact than get sucked into one of those catch up conversations. (And he was POPULAR in high school).


I thoroughly enjoyed high school, and I found my reunion to be entirely disappointing. Sure, it was interesting to catch up and see who was married, who had kids, who became a starving musician, etc. But, unfortunately, so many of my classmates DID NOT CHANGE AT ALL. Or grew in entirely different directions than I did. I found most of them to be horribly self-centered and thought they seemed unhappy. So it was sad for me, I guess, because although I had a good high school experience, it was just a step in my path to adulthood. College and life have changed and matured me. But they didn't seem to do the same for most of my classmates. Sad.

I don't think I'll attend the next reunion.

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